IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE - Don't Overlook The Obvious

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FLIRTING

Flirting
Is an insult to your spouse.

Be honest. We love when it happens!
We get off on others finding us attractive, sexy. We enjoy it when someone flirts with us. It makes us feel younger. Or super-good-looking for our age. It confirms our image of ourself. Or it makes us believe that our feelings of frumpy and dumpy appeal is only in our mind or that of our spouse's.

Well, it's one thing to be the impromptu recipient of a great flirting. Yet, it's quite another to reciprocate in kind or to seek it out.
When someone flirts, it's okay to acknowledge their efforts and to let them know that you are married.

What's not okay is to overtly flirt, hoping for a positive and mutual response.
For one thing, you raise the hopes of the other person. And, you know (right?) that you will not actually follow through with any sexual or romantic actions.
And, for another, more important reason, you are minimizing, demeaning, your marriage vows. For you did commit to your spouse. Forever. Nothing in them that says it's okay to behave as if you were still single or on the prowl.

And, don't believe for a minute that the odds are there for a mutual friend or relative or co-worker to see you. And, to report the matter back to your partner.

Then, of course, there are the ones of you who will flirt right in front of your wife/ husband. What a slap in the face and elsewhere! Any notion or excuse that they will or should undertsand your behavior is simply your way of wanting what you want, not caring about the hurt or jealousy or anger that you will cause.

It's ego-gratifying. But, it's also wrong. Period.

And, in a final note, if you are the husband or wife who has to endure watching your lover flaunt themselves... flirt... then, perhaps (only, perhaps) they are doing this because you have stopped being their biggest fan. You stopped telling and, more importantly, showing them with actions, just how attractive, sexy, and desirable they are to you.
Remember: we all want to believe that our partner still desires us, even after many years, and the natural ravages of aging.

'Nuff said!

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